There’s no correct way to be trans, and what I mean by that is that society will never give you a pat on the head and say you did it right, no matter how hard you work.
If you feel negatively about your body, then you transness is pathological and could be fixed with therapy. If you feel positively about your body, you made up being trans for attention. If you have mixed feelings about your body, then who can trust anything you say?
If you didn’t play with “opposite gender” toys as a child, then where’s your proof that you’re trans? If you did play with “opposite gender” toys as a child, then you’re enforcing the gender binary and you, personally, will force “normal” cis gender role nonconforming children to transition against their will. If you played with all sorts of toys as a child, then who can trust anything you say?
If you want to medically transition, then you’re going against the natural order and should be stopped before you, personally, bring about a dystopian future where everyone is forced to get “unnecessary and grotesque body modifications.” If you don’t want to medically transition, then you’re not really trans and everyone should feel free to misgender you. If you want to partially transition, then you’re confused and who can trust anything you say?
If you are binary-identified, then you’re enforcing the gender binary and single-handedly destroying years of feminist progress. If you’re not binary-identified, then you’re faking being trans and you are also enforcing the gender binary. Tough luck.
If you get angry at cissexism, then you’re hysterical and damaging your cause. If you don’t get angry at cissexism, then of course you think these jokes are funny, too, right?
If you wear the “right” clothes, then you, alone, are the driving force behind clothes being gendered and cis boys not feeling comfortable wearing dresses, and cis boys are way more important than you will ever be. If you wear the “wrong” clothes, then you should be happy to be misgendered. If there are no “right” clothes for you to wear, tough luck, and maybe if you’re skinny and white and dress as androgynously as possible then you might get a pass in some circles.
If you tell people that you’re trans, then you’re a “crazy” SJ warrior who never shuts up about your “issues”, but if you don’t tell people that you’re trans, then you’re a liar, and if you’re a woman, you’re also a predator.
If you answer every invasive question about your transness, then you’re a zoo animal, and if you refuse, then you’re not only uptight and rude, but damaging your own cause.
If you knew since birth, then there might be a cure, or at least a way to detect your trans defect in utero so parents could choose to abort you, and if you didn’t know since birth, then you’re faking or it’s a choice, in which case you should choose something more acceptable.
If you look trans, you deserve ridicule and no one will ever love, and if you look cis, then you’re being deceptive.
You will never be acceptable.
*cries at the horrible truth of this post*
wow yeah, I’ve been feeling this really hard lately. :(